15 Ways to boost your sex life

Reader's Digest Editors

Regular sex increases immunity from viruses, relieves stress, improves mood and eases pains. So, if your sex life isn't what it was, giving it renewed impetus will benefit your health as well as increasing your pleasure.

1. Have sex tonight

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Having intercourse regularly helps to keep your sex drive in high gear by increasing the production of testosterone, the hormone mainly responsible for libido in both men and woman.

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2. Wear some sensuous underwear

The feel of soft silk and other sensuous fabrics against your skin will help to stimulate those sensitive nerve endings and put you in the mood for sex.

 

3. Make pesto with pasta

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Pesto contains pine nuts, a great source of arginine. This is the precursor for nitric oxide, the main ingredient in drugs such as Viagra.

Arginine helps to open blood vessels so that blood flow improves.

 

4. Touch or kiss your partner often

Every time you pass your partner, reach out to touch or kiss him or her. Don’t allow these moments to go beyond a kiss or hug.

Simply increasing the amount of physical contact you have with your partner will help with desire.

 

5. Get plenty of zinc

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Sprinkle one tablespoon of wheatgerm on every pot of yoghurt and bowl of cereal that you eat. Wheatgerm is rich in zinc, which is important to the production of that all-important hormone, testosterone.

You can also get your fill of zinc from beef, eggs and seafood, especially oysters.

 

6. Read a "bodice ripper" with your partner

The two of you can play-act the parts of the ravishing heroine and her handsome, yet dangerous lover.

 

7. Keep your eyes open

eye contact boosts sex

Open your eyes when you kiss and when you’re having sex.

Looking into your partner’s eyes during such times sends a wonderful message of trust and honesty.

 

8. Say exactly what's on your mind

If watching your partner pull out the tree stump in the garden makes you go weak at the knees, tell him.

Simply expressing in words how everyday things make you feel will add extra depth to the intimacy between the two of you

 

9. Communicate about what matters

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Turn the timer on for 15 minutes and talk to him (or her) about anything other than children, money problems or work issues.

Talk about the dream you had last night, an article you read, the great presentation you made, the hopes you have for the future. When the timer goes off, it’s your partner’s turn to have a say.

 

10. Create your own intimate rituals 

What about waking your partner up with a steaming cup of coffee instead of the alarm every morning? What about having a hot bath ready in the evening? How about a meal out every Tuesday—or massaging your partner’s feet while you watch a DVD together?

The key is consistency. These are not things you do just once, but over and over again.

 

11. Get a massage

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Having a professional massage can make you feel at your physical peak. Alternatives include a pedicure or a facial—whatever makes you feel better about yourself.

If you take care of your own body, you’re much more likely to enjoy it. Another good way to take care of yourself is to exercise regularly.

 

12. Take a solo trip

While you’re staying at your solitary retreat, make a list of all the things you love and like about your partner. Close your eyes and picture yourself making love.

Call him or her and have an erotic phone conversation. By the time you get home, you’ll be greedy for each other.

 

13. Touch without your hands

touch without hands

Spend an hour touching every part of your partner’s body—without using your hands. Use other parts of your body instead.

Conversely, caress one another, with your hands touching every part of the body except the genital zones.

 

14. Show respect

Tell your partner two things you love about him or her every day. Love, affection and mutual respect are the bases for a steamy sex life.

 

15. Do something physical together

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Skiing, a long country walk, a stroll along a beach, canoeing—whatever you prefer. Such activities create a sense of physical vitality that readily translates into intimacy.