It’s never so bad that it can’t get worse: Reshaping perspectives of life for the better

It's often easy to get caught up in both the happy and bad times. It isn't easy to picture one's luck changing while things are going well.

Similarly, when things aren't going well, it's generally easier to see things growing worse than imagine them improving. It all depends on how one looks at life and perspective towards things. It is the point of view that will limit what one looks for and how it appears to be. Gary Vonk, in his book, "It's Never So Bad That It Can't Get Worse," has shed some light on the perspective, approaches, and general demeanor one should carry towards life.

The underlying book was written by an English author, Gary B. Vonk, on April 23, 2021. Gary has served the education sector with his wit, mentorship, and entrepreneurship skills. He is a honed leader and a teacher by profession. Gary initiated his teaching journey in January 2007, educating students about business, management, and technology. He has had a profound career of nearly thirty years in a retailing company where he served as a CEO and other senior positions for several private companies.

Gary has had several ups and downs throughout his tenure and learned from his mistakes to reach the precipice of greatness that he has now. Hence, from his first-hand experience of life, Gary reflects profoundly on the dynamics of life and composed a book, more like a guide, to help people re-evaluate their actions, remold their perspectives and rethink their approach to lead life.

This book is a self-development guide that enlightens the readers with the path they should follow for personal growth. It is geared with several examples, tips, and real-life examples to help rectify one the private and professional life problems and how to deal with them in the most effective manner. This helps discover the hidden, answer the question, and correct the anomaly one might have in life and is unable to rectify. It is a self-improvement, self-evaluating and transformational book to help readers achieve the goals they only dream of.

The book recommends keeping an eye out for how things could get better as well as how they could get worse. It suggests having an idea or two for dealing with each situation. It retracts one towards optimism but being realistically optimistic is the best approach to lead a successful life. Keeping one's guards up will always be a practical approach to dealing with the uncertainties that life comes with.   It entails being prepared beforehand for a chance to head off something going wrong and prepared to take advantage of an opportunity to make things better.

"If you are depressed, you are living in the Past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the moment".

-Lao Tzu

Focus is what makes a complete difference in how one encounters a situation and how it turns out to be. Hence, navigating one's focus on the things that matter and are under control is the ultimate approach for a secure future. Focusing on the past will do no good to anyone but rather make it worse in the present, which will reflect in the future. Having too many concerns for the future is equally as bad as being stuck in the past. Nonetheless, one can find the most peace by excluding the past and the future and limiting their focus on the moment they live in to steer their future in the right direction.

"Everything one hears is an opinion, not a fact. And everything one sees is a perspective, not the truth".

­-Marcus Aurelius

One's view of understanding things can make a stark difference in how they deal with it. Two people with different perspectives, encountering the same situation, can come up with two entirely different ways to comprehend it and deal with it. One can conclude that pursuing a realistically optimistic approach is the best way to evaluate things and yield the most out of an opportunity.

The book acts like a self-guide for the people who think they got astray and are unaware of its solutions. It entails the techniques intertwined with some examples to support the idea of steadfastness and the right approach to handle situations in personal and professional life. There comes the point where people feel stuck and lost in their problems and don't know how to reach out. It says that learned optimism entails cultivating the ability to see the world in a positive light. In comparison, learned helplessness is frequently contrasted with it. People can learn to be more optimistic by confronting negative self-talk and replacing pessimistic thoughts with more positive ones. Hence, this book is a solution to an entangled mind to sort their way out and pursue a peaceful life.

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