4 tips on making the most of the present and not letting the future control you


28th Oct 2019 Life

4 tips on making the most of the present and not letting the future control you

We’ve all been asked that question ‘where do you see yourself in 5/10 years?’ and whilst some of us might have the answers to that, the reality is, most of us don’t and that is totally ok. We share 4 of our top tips to living in the now and not stressing too much about the future.

According to new research carried out by financial services company Legal & General,  women in the UK are better at putting the present first and making the most of living in the now than men. The results showed that women place more importance in achieving things such as travelling more and losing weight, whereas men are focusing on long term goals such as getting on the property ladder, being successful at work and having children.

Whilst thinking ahead is important, it can often be the cause of unnecessary stress, so we've put together the below tips on how to enjoy living in the moment.

Stop worrying about what hasn’t happened yet

We’ve all done it. Worrying about a situation that hasn’t happened yet is only going to ruin all the good things that are happening now. If you focus on the future too much, it makes the present irrelevant. What will be, will be and stressing about something isn’t going to change that. If it is really eating you up, try thinking about what you can do right now to avoid any negative situations you might be worried about. 

Be spontaneous

Saving for a house, but your friend invites you on a last-minute group getaway? Go for it! Group holidays with all your friends don’t come around often and as you get older and people start their families they are less likely to happen. Good memories will always be precious.

Surround yourself with people that make you feel good

In order to fully live in the present, surround yourself with people that make you feel good. It is so easy to get caught up in other peoples lives and compare your achievements to theirs, so if you find yourself doubting your achievements and feeling less than someone because they have a nicer car or a better job, take a step away from them for a while until you no longer feel negatively about the differences in your lives and achievements.

Put yourself first and stop trying to please everyone else

You are your own number one, and looking after yourself before anyone else is the most important. Work towards the goals you want to achieve, not the ones others want you to achieve or the ones you think you should be achieving because society tells us too. If you don’t want to get married, thats ok, and if you do, thats ok too. Just make sure that anything you do, is done for you!

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