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Love Rat: How Did This Rat Change a Couple's Lives Forever?


1st Jan 2015 Animals & Pets

Love Rat: How Did This Rat Change a Couple's Lives Forever?

When we found him, he was blind and soaking, slumped in an alley, clearly close to death. He struggled to stand, then listed to one side and collapsed again. We watched him for a moment, horrified. And then, because we couldn’t just leave him there to die, we picked him up and brought him inside.

Mr T the Rat of Love

We laid him gently on the white expanse of our kitchen counter. After the blurry dark of the monsoon outside, the kitchen felt as bright and quiet as an operating theatre. My fiancé Colin placed him inside an eggshell-blue Tiffany box. We called him Tiffany, and then later Mr Tiffany—but most often, we called him Mr T.

That night, while I lay in our bedroom, hiding from the creature’s inevitable death, Colin nursed him once an hour with eye-droppers of milk and energy drinks. He was a street rat, no more than a few days old. His life had begun in the grimy alley beside our flat in Hong Kong, and to most people he would have embodied filth and disease. But we saw instead a fragile, unknowable life—and in the three years that followed, we came to see him as no average soul.


"Mr T entered our world during a time of transition"

Our wedding was three months away, and I was working seven days a week, often long into the night. My job as a foreign correspondent kept me in constant motion and took me around the world; even owning furniture seemed like a big commitment. I tried not to think about what that would mean for the future. Colin and I planned to have children some day, though some nights we could barely find time to have dinner.

Taking in a half-dead rat that needed sustained attention just to survive hadn’t been on my agenda. Which was why, when Colin and I found that Mr T was miraculously still breathing the next morning, we vowed to set him free as soon as he’d recovered fully. He’d survived, but he was a wild animal who deserved to live among his own kind. Not to mention that we had both read up on the extensive roster of virulent diseases rodents carry.


"Unwilling to get attached, I avoided him like the plague"

Still, as he gained strength over the following weeks, we couldn’t help celebrating Mr T’s tiny milestones: the moment a week after we found him when he opened his eyes in Colin’s palm, the night he lost his fear of our shiny floor tiles, the day he turned a bicycle into a jungle gym, his black shrimp’s eyes flashing in excitement as he clambered over its pedals.

Mr T began to make himself at home, confiscating post, pens and whole pizza slices and dragging them under the sofa, then chewing a crawl space inside the sofa itself. It was clear he intended to settle in for the long haul. But could we really keep this animal? On the other hand, was it even feasible for Mr T to re-enter the wild?

We called a professor at Oxford University who specialised in rat behaviour. He told us that domesticated rats set free in the forest begin acting like wild rats within a few hours. There was nothing stopping us from bidding Mr T adieu and moving on with our lives.

Nothing except the fact that we couldn’t resist his charms. Already, he’d begun to train us in his care.


Caring for Mr T

Found pet rat

By knocking over his dinner dishes or leaving them untouched, he made it clear that most vegetables—carrots, green beans, peppers—were inedible unless drenched in butter. He would eat peas, but only when shelled; the tops, but never the stalks, of broccoli; blueberries, but only if cut in half. His favourite foods were mushroom pâté, sushi and scrambled eggs. A few drops of beer were always appreciated. We prepared him two hot meals a day, which he ate with surgical precision, extracting the fattiest morsels first. He was too cute to let go.

Colin built Mr T a five-storey dwelling from wood and chicken wire, which we furnished with the cushions of the sofa he’d destroyed. Mr T compulsively redesigned his home, shredding the cushions and shoving bits of stuffing into the gaps in the chicken wire. Sometimes he would snuggle under my palm, pushing his nose into the V between my thumb and forefinger. If I tried to move away, he would grip my fingers with powder-pink, gummy-palmed paws.

I began to see Hong Kong as a place teeming with more than just human life: the giant hoary moth wrapped round the corner of an office building, the bird squatting on the pavement outside a watch shop, the feral dogs that patrolled the area behind our block. One afternoon, after noticing one of Mr T’s grubbier cousins in the same alley where we’d found him, I realised the line we draw between animals that are socially acceptable and those we find repugnant can be awfully arbitrary.


Becoming Parents

As Mr T steadily pawed his way into our hearts, Colin and I identified, for the first time in our lives, as parents. My husband was a rational and generous father. I was a neurotic, fussy mum. Colin tried to see the world through Mr T’s eyes, adding a solid wooden door to Mr T’s home when he realised how much he liked his privacy, or adhesive sandpaper when he saw Mr T slip on his ramps. Meanwhile, I obsessed over Mr T’s health, fearing that every nap or failed attempt to mount the coffee table signalled terminal illness.

I felt our world conforming to Mr T’s needs—and I loved it. Colin and I stopped going out to dinner as often and instead spent evenings in our living room, beaming proudly as Mr T dragged apples and socks into his house with great seriousness. Some nights, we stayed up on the sofa until two, three, four in the morning, waiting for the nocturnal Mr T to rouse himself and pad downstairs.


But Mr T’s Time was Precious

We stopped travelling together so one of us could always be home to keep him company, and when that was impossible, we enlisted house sitters and left an instruction manual nearly an inch thick. At parties we matched our friends’ tales of their children with news of Mr T’s latest tricks and his most recent fascinations: wooden knives and forks, starchy restaurant napkins, salmon sashimi.

I posted photos on Facebook of Mr T eating green beans, his paws covered in tomato sauce, or Mr T in repose, his whiskers a halo around his face. And all the while, we grappled with the fact that Mr T didn’t have much time. On the streets, most rats die before their first birthday. In captivity, many die by the age of three.

Not long after he turned two

Mr T’s once rapid pace slowed to a jog, then a waddle, and he slept more solidly through the days. But he was determined to keep going. When, as I’d often worried he might, he developed a tumour—it was as large as his head—we found a microsurgeon who removed it, and Mr T sprinted across our living room the same day.

When a spinal condition paralysed his back legs, he adapted by pulling himself up and down the ramps with his front paws. One night Mr T began to struggle to breathe. This time the surgeon couldn’t save him. Mr T died in Colin’s hands.

We had him cremated and held a small ceremony in which we scattered some of his ashes in the park behind our block of flats so he could rest near his family. We put the remainder of his ashes in an urn, which we placed beside a picture of him in our living room, and tried to adjust to the sad fact that we didn’t get to be Mr T’s mum and dad any more. But shortly after his passing, Colin and I became parents to a son, whom we named Louis T.

What Mr T Taught Us

How a rat changed lives

A few years earlier, we’d struggled to find even a spare hour—but Mr T taught us to make room in our lives for the future we wanted, to be more empathetic, more patient. He taught us to love unconditionally.

We’d found Mr T in one of life’s interstices, between dating and marriage, coupledom and parenthood. If it had been a dog or a cat slumped in our alley that night, there’d be no story to tell. We’d have taken the animal to a shelter. Knowing that nobody would do that for Mr T made us bring him into our home, and doing so made all the difference.

Some of our friends and family didn’t get Mr T. They never understood how we could love a rat. We never understood how, if you had the pleasure of meeting him, it was possible not to.


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