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6 Signs your cat is being unfaithful

6 Signs your cat is being unfaithful

These are the tell-tail signs of a cheating, unfaithful cat, according to experts

If you own an "outdoor" cat, you may sometimes wonder just what they get up to when adventuring outside the home, or even be curious about their levels of loyalty…

To help you spot whether your kitten could be "cheating" on you with another household, Catrin George, Animal Wellbeing Specialist at Animal Friends Pet Insurance shares the biggest clues to watch for.

1. Change in appearance

Fluffy slightly fat cat lying on the sofa with its belly exposedIf your cat is looking a little bigger, maybe they're getting double fed? Credit: krblokhin

Is your kitten looking slightly more plump than usual? Catrin explains what this might mean....

“When it comes to the weight of your pet, small fluctuations are natural and to be expected, just as with us humans. That being said, if you start to notice your cat is looking slightly rounder than usual without any change in diet to explain it, then your cat could be being fed elsewhere. However, it could also be a symptom of an underlying health issue so if you are concerned about your pet’s weight, I recommend seeking the advice of a vet.”

2. Leaving the home for longer than usual

6 signs your cat is being unfaithful Grey cat lying down on a bed with one eye openIf your cat keeps doing a disappearing act, maybe they have a second family. Credit: pixabay

We all know cats enjoy having the freedom to roam outside of the home, but when does this become a sign of spending time with another family? Catrin says…

“One of the biggest and most blatant tell-tale signs that your cat or kitten is spending time with another household is simply upping the number of disappearing acts or them disappearing for longer periods of time. When it comes to cats, they are naturally extremely curious creatures so this type of behaviour is not enough alone to signal disloyal behaviour. However, it is definitely worthwhile monitoring the lengths of time they take on their adventures before returning back home.”

3. Reduced appetite

Tortoiseshell cat being given a bowl of food by a manA reduced appetite could well mean that your cat is being fed elsewhere. Credit: Chalabala

Pets can be greedy—when do they ever turn down a treat? However, if your kitten is getting their tummy full elsewhere, they may even start to completely dismiss their usual food.

"If your cat is going through their food slower than normal then they could be getting full bellies from somewhere else"

Catrin reveals: “Another possible sign that your cat is cheating on you is if they start to develop a disinterest in the food they typically enjoy eating at home. If you notice your cat is going through their food at a much slower rate than normal but this isn’t being followed by any weight change, this is a strong indication that they are getting their food fix and full bellies from somewhere else.”

4. Shift in scent

Notice a new scent appearing around the house? Your sneaky cat may have some explaining to do, according to Catrin.

"Your cat might have been acting disloyally if they have started to smell like a second home"

“Just as with our clothes and household items, our pets carry their own unique scent, so if you notice that their smell seems to have changed (or you can smell particular scents which you can’t explain), there is a good chance that your cat has been acting disloyally. Whether they have picked up the scent of a friendly stranger’s perfume or are now starting to smell just like the second home, they have some explaining to do…”

5. Change in body language

Ginger cat being brushed by a ginger womanIs your cat's behaviour towards you changing, with more or less affection? Credit: Cottonbro Studio

Cats may not be famous for being the overly affectionate type, unlike their canine counterparts, but each cat is individual and, as their owner, it will be very apparent to you if they seem to be experiencing a shift in behaviour.

Catrin says: “If your cat is ‘cheating’ on you, they may change their behaviour towards you and either become colder with you, or alternatively become more cuddly. If you find your usually cuddly cat is starting to give you the cold shoulder, it could mean they are getting their affection fix elsewhere. On the other hand, if they are suddenly acting more loving towards you (suspiciously so), they could be subtly telling you that they feel guilty for seeking and accepting attention from someone else.”

6. You catch them red-handed

Cats might be sneaky, but sometimes they aren’t quite so subtle about their mischievous antics…

Catrin explains: “If your cat is prowling around your street looking for attention elsewhere, you may hear reports of this through your neighbours—or even spot them on your local community’s social media posts! With some people having spotted their pets in photos on the likes of Zoopla and other property sites, this is probably the most obvious way to be sure your cat has another home.”

"Some people having spotted their pets in photos on the likes of Zoopla and other property sites"

Please remember that any changes in appearance, appetite or behaviour should be taken seriously and investigated by a professional to rule out any potential underlying health problems. In addition, if you suspect your cat is being fed elsewhere, speak to your vet to get their advice on how best to approach this and look to invest in a tracking tag or pet camera, as recommended by a vet.

For information on kitten insurance, please visit www.animalfriends.co.uk and for more information on cat body language, please visit the Animal Friends blog.  

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