Is your marriage in trouble? Couples counseling may be the answer
BY READERS DIGEST
1st Oct 2019 Wellbeing
It can be hard to admit that your marriage is in trouble. Society idealises marriage as a concept to such an extent and places such a great deal of pressure on married couples to play out often unrealistic standards of bliss. This, of course, can have the opposite effect and make a marriage even more pressurised and unbearable.
However, as with so many other things, the first step to saving your marriage is admitting that you have a problem in the first place. What’s more, the very fact that you’re considering counseling indicates that at least part of you still wants to save it, which in turn means there may be hope for your marriage yet.
To nourish that hope, couples often turn to marriage counselors for help – and for good reason.
Here are a few reasons why couples counseling may be the answer you’ve been hoping for.
The Power of Impartiality
First and foremost, a couples counselor provides one of the most important things that a couple in trouble requires, and it’s something they cannot give one another – impartiality.
When you have a dispute with anyone, it is only natural to feel biased against or mistrustful of the other side. They have done wrongs to you (at least you perceive things that way) and so why should you ever trust them again?
The problem with that line of thinking is that it does not allow for the kind of dialogue and healing that is necessary if you are ever to repair your marriage. On the other hand, even if you would both like to, you likely cannot trust one another to be impartial at this point.
That’s why a marriage and couples counseling specialist is so important. Not only do they provide you with a fresh perspective on your problems, but they do so from a position of impartiality. Your marriage counselor is someone who both of you can trust – and that may be the first thing you’ve had in common in a while. It’s a good first step, and your counselor can help you continue taking steps towards healing your marriage.
Constructive Sessions
They’ll be able to do this with sessions that emphasize small, constructive steps towards progress, Dialogues, trust exercises, role playing, individual as well as joint sessions – marriage counselors can mix and match all of these to great effect. They also make sure that all speech and content within the sessions remains constructive and committed towards mending your relationship.
Experience on Your Side
When it comes to something as important as visiting a counselor with your marriage on the line, you are going to want to know that you’re dealing with someone you can trust.
Thankfully, the best marriage counselors can boast decades of experience. They’ve seen it all, and are willing and able to share the benefit of that experience with you in hopes of diagnosing and addressing your own marital woes.
With the help of a marriage counselor, you and your significant other can make the progress you need to rekindle your relationship.
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